Dealing with an individual with a narcissistic personality disorder can be both emotionally and physically exhausting. Most people will tell you to hit the ground running when you encounter these volatile individuals. However, many times you may not be aware of what you are getting yourself into until it is far too late.
I am going to answer one of the most common questions, link a YouTube video (not mine), as well as link a great page on Facebook.
MOST COMMON QUESTION:
Why is a narcissist promiscuous?
Answer:
Narcissists do not see women in a healthy way. They are unable to see
a woman as cute (i.e. sweet) and sexy at the same time. No, narcissists
categorize women into one of two separate categories-saintly or sexy.
They have a very difficult time seeing a woman as both. To them, a woman
is either one or the other, but never both. This is what psychologists
refer to as a Madonna-whore complex.
If a woman is sweet and nice, she is classified as a Madonna. If she
challenges him, she is defined as a whore. A Madonna is sexless. A whore
turns a narcissist on like nothing else. In the beginning of a
relationship, every woman is sexy to a narcissist because the thrill of
the chase makes her enticing. The harder to get she plays, the sexier
she becomes. However, once she has been conquered by the narcissist, she
slowly loses her desirability. The more comfortable the relationship
becomes and the more caring she becomes, the less enticing she is to him
sexually. She loses her sex appeal and becomes a saintly Madonna
figure. A Madonna fulfills a narcissist’s need to be catered to like a
child. A whore fulfills his adult sexual needs. A whore is the only type
of woman that turns a narcissist on. A Madonna is completely sexless.
Over time, any woman who is good and caring to a narcissist will
inevitably become sexless.
Many narcissists revert to pornography at this point, because it
portrays women as whores. Pornography is degrading to women, and this is
exactly what turns a narcissist on. Many become addicted to
pornography. A narcissist eventually withdraws sexually from any type of
intimate relationship you once had with him. I believe it is inevitable
in any long-term relationship with a narcissist. You become sexless.
You become the Madonna. He still needs you, no doubt. However, this is
not because he is in love with you in any adult or mature way. He needs
you to continue to cater to his needs. He needs you to ensure that
someone will always be present to stroke his ego, should the outside
world fall short of his expectations.
In other words, sex and love are two completely separate entities,
which is precisely how a narcissist views them. A narcissist does not
view sex as a reflection of one’s love for another. He views sex as
something completely separate from love. To a narcissist, love is
sexless, pure, and saintly, whereas sex is dirty and reserved for
whores. They go from person to person for narcissistic supply. They are
incapable of love and can not feel.
YOUTUBE VIDEO
She has made multiple helpful videos so browse around!
FACEBOOK PAGE
https://www.facebook.com/SurvivingTheNarcissistRelationship
I will be blogging about this topic again as it is very dear to my heart.
Have a question about this specific personality disorder? Do you have a personal experience with a narcissistic individual? Please feel free to leave your own story or question in the comments section.
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